Here's the deal:
Right now you can master the art of keeping conversations going. And if you pay attention to what I'm about to tell you, you will get very VERY good at doing it.
Forget about finding topics you're both interested in. Forget about asking certain types of questions. Forget about what you're going to say when you open your mouth...
There are only 3 Things you need to master to get good at keeping conversations going.
And until you learn what they are, how they work, and how to properly use them, you are going to struggle A LOT (just like I did)...
Core Skill #1: Digging into Their World
When you know the magic words to say to express the right amount of curiosity and fascination, you suddenly don't have to work very hard at all to keep a conversation going.
In fact, you can actually hang back and relax and let them do the work because this creates a natural, easy pathway for thinking of new things to talk about while keeping them fully engaged with you.
If you don't get this skill down, most people won't want to connect with you or invest much of their time with you. As a result, they won't really care about you. Sure, they might tell you things on the surface like, "Ohhh that's cool." But deep down...they won't really care because they're not getting enough genuine interest from you.
When you understand Digging into Their World, you avoid the DEADLIEST PROBLEM most people have that shuts down all conversations within nanoseconds. When you can sidestep that landmine, you're going to have a MUCH easier time clicking with someone you're chatting with.
Core Skill #2: Deep Listening
This gets mentioned a lot when learning how to improve your social skills.
We've all heard it before: "Make sure you're a good listener and pay attention" and blah blah blah whatever.
Anyone can be a "good listener." This skill is called DEEP Listening because it requires you to have a much deeper level of focus.
And once you know how to properly do this, you will NEVER be at a loss of words ever again. Your brain will actually GIVE you material based on what they are saying in a totally effortless way.
This is the secret to being an incredibly well-liked and admired person.
But if you don't know how to hone this skill the RIGHT way, you'll get trapped in "let them do all the talking" territory. You'll be branded as quiet and boring all over again. Not good.
Core Skill #3: Vibing
Vibing allows you to meet someone in their world and get synced up with how they like to talk. It allows you to have powerful conversations, make people want you to like them, and gives you the satisfaction of "getting into the zone" when you're talking.
This is when both of you are able to bounce ideas off each other, adding onto what the other is saying, and creating a FUN discussion that just builds and builds and builds...
Without having this concept available to you, you're going to miss out on a ton of fun. Even worse, you'll be a social BUZZKILL and not even know it. (In fact, if you've ever had someone COMPLETELY lose interest in you like they suddenly flicked a switch, I'd be willing to bet you simply messed up Core Skill #3.)